"My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer," the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. "Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams."
"An oral fixation is a fixation in the oral stage of development manifested by an obsession with stimulating the mouth first described by Sigmund Freud, who thought infants are naturally and adaptively in an oral stage, but if weaned too early or too late, may fail to resolve the conflicts of this stage and develop a maladaptive oral fixation. In later life, these people may constantly "hunger" for activities involving the mouth.
A child who is not fed enough (neglected) or is fed too much (over-protected) may become orally fixated as an adult. It is believed that fixation in the oral stage may have one of two effects. If the child was underfed or neglected, he/she may become orally dependent and obsessed with achieving the oral stimulation of which he was deprived, learning to manipulate others to fulfill his needs rather than maturing to independence. This child may grow up to become fixated with giving oral sex to other people regardless of gender and sexual preferences. The overly indulged child may resist growing up and try to return to that state of dependency through crying, acting helpless, demanding satisfaction, and being "needy."
Oral fixations are considered to contribute to over-eating, being overly talkative, smoking addictions, overindulging in sugar, chewing on straws and toothpicks, and even alcoholism (known as "oral dependent" qualities). Other symptoms include a sarcastic or "biting" personality (known as "oral sadistic" qualities). Another indicator is constant nail biting, putting fingers in the mouth as well as biting any future sexual partners they may have. The Freudian oral stage of development is not necessarily in conflict with evidence across the mammalian spectrum that body part sucking, including thumbsucking or the sucking of body parts of adjacent animals, and is associated with maternal deprivation or premature weaning in the exterior gestational period."- Oral Stage of the Psychosexual Development; Wikipedia.
- Wicked Wednesdays at the Curtin Tavern
I fall helplessly in love with these girls over and over again. I can't get over how things have changed so drastically since the fieldtrip. I was in a huge emotional dip just before that but everything has picked up so well since (I'm picturing a happy parabolic curve as I say this LOL). I suppose when something good doesn't happen when you want it to, it only makes room for something way better. My stay in Perth is once again bearable.
We have grown so close to each other it's almost as if we've known each other for ages when it has only been a little over a semester. Unlike my other friends where I usually restrain bits of myself from, I'm in my fullest element with these girls. I have nothing to hide and I have nothing to fear. We share the same easy going attitude, love for shopping and ambition to be successful geologists. I just love how we're such a cute mix of Asians. Aishah's Malay, Yasinta's Indonesian, Nishma's Indian and I'm Chinese. It really can't get any better than this!
Frankly, I'd much rather be reading something else like The Economist newspaper, National Geographic magazine or one of those erotic novels from Percy I have yet to read instead of my Applied Sedimentology textbook. But it will have to do for now. The warm sunshine paired with the cool autumn breeze makes everything easily forgivable including my hectic uni days. I'm going to miss this dearly when the heavy winter clouds roll in.
